Most new midlife moms look forward to leaving behind their old lives,
their past me-centered existence. As
Lisa, a new mother in her late thirties put it, “For so many years I
was preoccupied with my weight, my attire, my career.
Having a child and worrying about someone else was a wonderful
relief. I was bored with
me.”
“I was bored with me.”
I loved it when Lisa said that.
I remember laughing out loud at what I thought was the brilliance
of her statement because it so perfectly put into words what many
midlife moms had told me. They
said they were ready for this and they wholeheartedly accepted the
inevitable changes a child brought.
Moving from me to Mommy was a welcomed transition.
It was exactly what they wanted and they were excited about what
life now had in store.
“Nothing was better than those first few months after we
brought the baby home,” one midlife mom reminisced.
“Life was no longer predictable.
Everything was new and I was alive.
Really alive, again.”
The mlm consensus seems to be that we're ready to move on to the next
adventure. Comfortable in their skin, midlife moms are ready to
take on the challenge--unless you feel like Livie, who had a difficult
time learning to put someone else first.
"I know you may think I'm horrible, but you asked for the truth.
Having a child at 43 was not easy for me. I wanted this baby,
don't get me wrong, but adjusting both mentally and emotionally did not come as easy as I had
hoped. There was no spontaneity in my life. (after the
baby) I had to be so incredibly organized and I just wasn't used
to it. Every second was accounted for. I wasn't used to that
and it wasn't something I anticipated. The rhythm of my life
changed and until I got accustomed to the new beat I was out of
step..."
